As a kid, I lied about this and that...something simple, a white lie so I wouldn't get into trouble. Or a lie that I thought was simple to get out of...but made things worse. Being a girl....we have tried on our Mommy's things....once I tried on her black, fashionable boots that went up to my knees....it was the 80's...I thought I was cool. I played around in them, pretending to be Mommy. I took them off later and left them in the basement. I didn't put them away. Later, my Mom asked who moved them. I denied it through and through...it was not me...she believed me. My brother got into trouble for playing and leaving them in front of an entryway, where someone could trip on them. He pleaded that it wasn't him. She didn't believe him. I felt awful. But I couldn't come clean now....or I would get in trouble for lying. So it was him. Even today, we will joke about that...I don't think he was traumatized....
So this morning, again I was upstairs, getting done quickly while they ate. It was the same routine, eat, plates to the counter and watch shows till it was time to go. Ten minutes later...there was banging..loud banging. I yelled downstairs "who is doing that?" I knew the answer, Katie doesn't bang and Alex cant bang that loudly from his chair. I knew it was Josh, but wasn't sure what he was banging. I asked again, "who is doing that?" Josh said "its not me, no one is banging." GUILTY....I knew it was him. MOTHERS can tell in their childrens' voice when they are lying, they don't need to see their faces...voices will do! I didn't understand that before...but being a Mom now...YOU know...YOU just KNOW! Its like an internal switch gets flipped...and we MOMS know everything!!
I asked Josh to come upstairs. He thumped and banged, basically spaszed out and started to cry.....again...he is guilty. Normally he wouldn't do that dance of guilt. In his room, I asked him if he was the one banging about, loudly. It sounded like something was crashing, something broke. He denied it through and through. I said don't lie. He denied doing anything and asked to play computer games. I left him in his room, went downstairs and asked Katie casually what happened. Nonchalantly, while munching on toast, she said "Josh was banging on the basement door, wobbling it back and forth." The door was opened, and the light for the basement was on. That's all I needed to know.
Back upstairs I told Josh what I learned from Katie. He looked at me, "sorry, I just didn't want to get into trouble." "You know, Mommys' always know when their kids are lying. Lying can make things worse, you could get into more trouble. Just tell the truth. Be honest, you might not get into that much trouble. You know what to do, you know how to be good. No more lying. Cause you lied to me and I knew that you lied, you don't have games tonight...ok! The truth always comes out.."
We hugged...and he told me that he would never lie again cause he didn't want to get into trouble. "As long as you tell me the truth, I wont be that mad...I just need to know the truth. Don't lie to anyone, ok...just tell the truth."
"I'm sorry Mommy."
We then joked about, and got ready to leave for school. Hopefully, he wont lie again...fingers crossed!
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